Igando Kinyua

  DEFLOWERED GIFTS... The issue about a woman’s virginity is one that has been addressed with utmost severity within our society. Older women married in the 1990s going back were not treated too kindly when found out to not have been virgins on their wedding night. In some cultures, the issue was so serious that the marriage was to be consummated in front of elders who would check the sheets searching for specks of blood, lack of which would cause the woman to be sent back home with a kiondo on her head (there was a jembe in the kiondo). The dowry was called back on account of the ‘daughter’s shame’ What really is virginity then? Virginity is mostly thought of as a state where someone has not had vaginal penetrative sex. I say penetrative vaginal sex because true to it, nobody is keen to ask whether one has had oral or anal sex  for that matter. Once I heard someone say she had performed all there is to sexual activity apart from vaginal sex. She still insisted she was ...